So it's a little past due but for Little Man's 3rd birthday, we celebrated with Jake and the Neverland Pirates. They are his current obsession. LM dressed as Jake and in the spirit of things I dress as Issie, one of Jake's mateys. Everyone had a fantastic time and LM got so much stuff I didn't have a clue what to get him for Christmas. The festivities included a Piñata, pin the flag on the treasure, and of course cake and ice cream. I can't believe he is already 3 years old. Some days it seems like it was just yesterday I was taking him home from the hospital. Love my Little Man to pieces.
Thursday, December 5, 2013
Ok I don't get people who don't want to be happy. I want to be happy. I spent the last 10 years of my life unhappy and didn't even know it! I don't want to spend any more time just existing or going through the motions thinking that life is just hard and that's just the way it is so don't expect anything better to come along. That's crap! So it is hard for me to understand now how people who know that they are unhappy and in a destructive or abusive relationship just stay. I stayed in an unhappy relationship because I didn't know any better. I thought I was happy because I didn't know what happiness really was. I was unhappy before I started the relationship so the unhappiness just continued. I wasn't abused or mistreated but I was never truly happy. I just thought, ok sometimes life just sucks but that's what being an adult is so put your big girl panties on and get through it. But life doesn't have to be all doom and gloom and wishing and hoping for something better. You just have to recognize that the person you "think" you love or that says they love you while they spit on you is not happiness and they are most definitely not in love with you despite what they might tell you. There is true happiness out there waiting for you. You just have to look for it! Sometimes it is staring you right in the face or even beating you on the head, metaphorically speaking, but you are so wrapped up in that abusive person or destructive relationship that you can't see the forest for the trees. Wake up people!! Be an adult and stand up for yourself and tell yourself that you have the right to be happy!! You have the right to be loved and adored and appreciated! You are special! You are loved! There are better things out there for you. Don't let your good thing slip away because you won't let go of the past. No one deserves to be abused in any form or fashion. If you are in an abusive relationship, I beg you please get out and seek help immediately! If some that tells you they love you hits you or tells you that your nothing or worthless or toys with your emotions or uses your children to hurt you, then they don't love you. They don't know the meaning of the word. Actions will always speak louder than words and show someone's true character. We are all responsible for our own happiness. No one else is ever going to be able to make you happy until you are happy with yourself first. Don't put that burden on someone else because they will only let you down. No human can stand under that kind of expectation. Jesus is the only one that will never fail you or forsake you. He is the only one strong enough to carry you through the hard times in life. So I don't need a knight in shining armor to come rescue me and whisk me away to a castle so we can live happily every after. God gave me two feet to stand on, two hands to work, and a brain to use. So I don't need a man to carry me, support me, or think and speak for me. I need one who can do all those things on his own as well and worry about his own happiness and not rely on me to supply it. If he can do all those things then the rest will fall into place. So, from now on this is a drama free zone. Don't bring it around here because I don't have time for it. You've been told to get out and make it happen. If you chose to stay and be dumped on then that's on you. I can't help you if you don't want to be helped. That is all.